It's Not Your Fault

There was a point in the movie "Good Will Hunting" where protagonist Will Hunting, played by Matt Damon, is having a discussion with therapist Sean Maguire, played by the late Robin Williams. This could actually be my personal tribute to Robin.

"I Don't Want To Die a Virgin!"

Remember when I said in an earlier blog post that a person's sexuality is their own and that everyone should keep out of everyone else bedrooms? Well, I meant it and still uphold that. However, every once in a while I'll think about things like this.

Another victim of the purity culture

Hi there. I know it's been a long time since I posted anything, but I've been really busy. Still no excuse, but just haven't been up to doing any blogging. Hopefully, it won't be a pattern that will continue. Anyway, onto today's topic. These stories just keep popping up. A friend of mine told me about this one. It's sad how good people that want to do the right thing are simply suckered into this crap.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/samantha-pugsley/2014/08/i-waited-until-my-wedding-night-to-lose-my-virginity-and-i-wish-i-hadnt/

I'm Tired of Being a Christian

I'm tired of being a Christian. Oh my God, am I ever...am I ever over being a Christian. I have mentioned before that I don't call myself a Christian anymore. Well my friends, I've reached the point that I don't want anything to do with this thing called "Christianity" or organized religion. And I'm finding out that I'm not alone.

Can We All Just Stop With the "Virgin" Jokes Now?

You know, I'm getting really tired of this fad where people are making fun of supposed "virgins," especially males. I really hate it when someone says you're not a 'real' man if you haven't had sex yet.

Living Life on Your Terms

Dogma, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, means:

1

  a : something held as an established opinion; especially : a definite authoritative tenet

  b : a code of such tenets <pedagogical dogma>

  c : a point of view or tenet put forth as authoritative without adequate grounds

2

  : a doctrine or body of doctrines concerning faith or morals formally stated and authoritatively proclaimed       by a church

Prostitution vs. Sex Crimes

What's the relationship between prostitution and crimes, such as child molestation, sexual assault and rape? If prostitution is made legal, what would happen to the rates of sex crimes, both in this country and throughout the world? What would happen to the crime rates if prostitution was made legal here in America?

What is Hell?

This is something that I've been (for lack of a better term) "wrestling" with for the past year or so. Why are there 4 or 5 words in the Bible (Sheol, Hades, Gehenna, Tartarus) translated as "Hell," yet they are not identical? Sometimes they are not even similar! Sheol was the place of the dead, and was the word used in the Old Testament. Gehenna was used only in the Gospels 12 times and referred to the town dump, not an eternal lake of fire. Hades was the equivalent of the word Sheol (we know this from the Greek Septuagint which is the OT written in Greek), yet Hades is translated as "Hell" more often than not in the NT, rather than "the grave." Not too mention, this concept of a eternal hell would have been foreign to the Jews at that time. No one questioned Him on this? Not even the Pharisees who were trying to discredit Him? Not too long ago, I wrote a post on Facebook (which interestingly got no responses), and it follows:

Masturbation

I love to masturbate! If that wasn't emphatic enough, let me say it again. I love masturbation! I love everything about it. I like talking about it. I like doing it. I like seeing both men and women do it. I'm even collecting solo sex toys for men (there's not that many out there). I primarily use a Fleshlight, but if I'm in the mood, I also like to occassionally experiment with anal play (butt plugs and dildos).

Here is a video for you Christians that think masturbation is a "sin." I used to believe that, too, and it caused me years of pain and suffering - not to mention needless guilt - as I struggled with my own strong sex drive.

As far back as I can remember, I've always been fond of fondling myself. I would lay on my back in bed, with my two brothers sleeping on either side of me, and I would quietly slide my pants and underwear down to my ankles, and touch myself. I would play with my then pinky-sized penis, and would roll my balls in between my fingers and how good that felt, even prior to reaching puberty. I would run my fingers down the shaft of my tiny "wee-wee" and pull my foreskin back and fully expose my glans. It was so sensitive to the touch. I knew by then what circumcision was and wondered how people that were circumcised dealt with the sensitivity. I mean, it was just "out there" all the time. I can remember the first time I had an orgasm. I think it was after I started watching porn movies that my brother acquired - around the age of 12 or 13. Anyway, I was sitting on the toilet and I was touching myself. I imagined what it would be like to have sex with a girl, so I took my hand and curled it into the shape of a vagina (amazing how I instinctively knew how to do this). I started to rub my penis up and down. It felt so good. I kept on doing it and I could feel something deep inside my loins. I kept it up until I felt something, then braced as I had my first-ever orgasm. It was intense! I've never felt anything like that before. I couldn't remember if any semen came out (probably just a drop or two). Over the course of the next few years, I masturbated constantly, at least every week, usually every couple of days. Then, when I turned 21, I sadly joined a church that disapproved of masturbating (as most of them wrongly do), citing it as "impurity." I stopped masturbating for 2 years straight. Then, I did it again. I slipped up. And I felt so much guilt and shame over it. The next five years after that, I have had a love-hate relationship with it. Now, I've learned that it's natural, normal, and beautiful - and I do it whenever I can. I love it. Love it! Love it! Love it! And I'm never going to stop. Especially now that I know that the Bible verses cited against masturbation are taken out of context (no surprise there).

Celibacy

Can I be honest about how I feel about this topic? Celibacy sucks.